“I always think about what my son will be when he grows up.. Like any mother, I want him to succeed in his life and his studies.. But I didn’t think before, I want my son when he grows up, what will he be inside of him.. What do I plant in him now? And when he grows up, will he have a positive or negative effect? Do you think his life will be in color or black and white?
And you think your son will grow up when he understands, or he won’t understand when he grows up?!!

“you are beautiful”

“After we came back from school, Laila said to me while she was crying and angry: I will not go to school from tomorrow unless I make my hair a routine. My friends make fun of me.. I am tired of the same hairstyle that does not change. I want to make my hair new hairstyles like them.. There is no invitation!”

The above is one of many sentences. It is possible that one day you will find your daughter returning from school sad, and she will not say anything else, and she will completely refuse to go out and meet the society except when she does what she wants, and this means that she suffers from Social Anxiety Syndrome.

It is a chronic mental health condition, which causes the child to be anxious about dealing with others because of his fear of their judgment on him or his appearance, and thus his attempt to please them in any way is an attempt to avoid this type of anxiety.

In a study conducted by a family therapist,Wesley StallerShe says: 1 out of every 8 children suffer from social anxiety disorder, which symptoms include: stomach pain, fear of people’s judgment, lack of self-confidence, which develops because of their inability to face the world by themselves and their constant need for parents, which is called Separation Anxiety Disorder.

And not treating this type of anxiety, leads to infection with Chronic panic disorder What is a condition that accompanies a person throughout his life and does not have a definitive cure.

How do you deal with your child’s social anxiety disorder?

1. Support him as a family, and that is that you help him believe that he is distinguished from others, and that you accept and love him.
2. They always hear him positive phrases because he keeps thinking about them, and they help him find the emotional stability he needs.
3. If you don’t feel that there is a noticeable improvement, you can turn to a psychiatrist, who will help him overcome his anxiety and thus his future will be psychologically stable.

“Your body has limits”

“Adam came home crying and didn’t say what he had to do.. With time, he began to withdraw and isolate from us and from people.. I kept feeling that he was afraid, and he refused to sit with anyone alone.. He could not sleep at night due to nightmares.. He didn’t want to go to his exercises anymore.. his level of education I deteriorated.. I began to notice him behaving sexually with me in incomprehensible ways.. He was no longer as active as the first, and kept walking with his back bent.”

“After I thought about these behaviors, and read on the Internet, I decided to talk to him and understand, and after many attempts, I discovered that Adam had been harassed by a school worker!”

Sexual abuse It is any act that forces a child to participate in sexual activities, and it consists of signs of your child being sexually abused: fear and flight, the emergence of new behaviors in his personality, his complete refusal to go to a certain place or with certain people.

And studies have shown that one out of every 10 children is exposed to sexual abuse before they reach the age of 18, and among the people who molested children under the age of 6, 50% of them were family members. The same physical abuse in the future, and he is unable to form normal social relationships, and the worst is that he has high suicidal tendencies.

How do you protect your child from sexual abuse?

In order to protect your child from this abuse and its effects, it is important that you and your family focus on the child, and teach him some important things:

1. It is very important, as a father and a mother, to create safety and a space for talking between you and the child, so that he has the courage and is able to talk to you, and tell you everything without fear of any reactions from you after his words, because the way you deal with him at this moment will make a difference with him throughout his life.
2. They resorted to a psychiatrist, because the effects of sexual abuse can last a lifetime, but with the right treatment, he can overcome it.
3. Teach your child that the body has areas called “private areas,” and that they are private because no one is allowed to touch them or see them.
4. Teach him how and when to say “no,” and that it is very normal for him to tell people who are older than him that they are distancing from him, if he feels that they are unnaturally close to his body, teach him that he has his personal space.
5. Don’t force him to say hello to someone who forced him, if you feel that he is not comfortable with him.
6. Don’t neglect the care and protection of your child that starts from home.

“I am in your back”

“I was surprised by Maryam’s teacher talking to me and complaining that she did not participate in any academic activities in the classroom, even if she knew the answer, and that her level of education was also low. After I stayed with her, I thought and found that this was not the first time I had this complaint from Maryam, and I also noticed that she had the same symptoms, and that she does not like to play or participate with children like the rest of her friends, and I do not know what to do.”

If you notice that your child is suffering from the same symptoms, then he is likely to suffer from: Chronic anxiety disordersIt is one of the disorders that affect children and its causes are different, such as participating in family quarrels directly or indirectly, and the child’s inability to understand the world around him and his lack of control over it, which leads to anxiety.

How do you deal with your child’s anxiety disorders?

You must know how to understand your child’s anxiety and the appropriate treatment for it, and this is because in many reports it is confirmed that 80% of children who suffer from anxiety do not get the help they need, and with time and the absence of treatment, anxiety increases, and leads them to a frightening stage of isolation, weak personality and bad condition The psychology that makes them weak in facing the challenges of life and society.

In order to save your child from chronic anxiety, you will need:

1. Seek help from a psychiatrist, because it will make a difference with him getting the right treatment from the specialist.
2. Look for books and stories suitable for his age, to help him understand his feelings, and read them with him.
3. Maintain a comfortable routine for your child, to increase their sense of security and reassurance.
4. Watch your child and notice the smallest details in his behavior without exaggeration, so that you can address any problem at its beginning.

“Happiness can be damaged and returned to its owner.”

“We were sitting among my friends and their children, and all the children brought their toys and played together, and suddenly I found my son saying at the top of his voice: I don’t want anyone to play with my toys, this is my play alone!”

Have you been in this position before? You felt embarrassed by everyone around you, right?!

We all love our children, and day after day our desire to give them the whole world grows, but while satisfying this feeling, we do not think that we are creating a feeling of selfishness and excessive self-love within the child.

Studies have proven that our children are not selfish from the time of birth. On the contrary, the family is the one who, with certain actions, develops this feeling inside him, and this behavior appears in different behaviors, such as his intense jealousy of children, and his unwillingness to share his toys with them.

And don’t think that this feeling will end when he grows up, on the contrary! Usually, the behaviors that the child gets used to, grow with him, and therefore, he will grow up not thinking about anyone in the world but himself, and he is stingy even in his feelings, which in turn will affect all aspects of his life.

The family must understand the difference between selfishness and the right to property. Selfishness is a bad trait and has great consequences in the child’s future. Ownership is about teaching the child his rights, preserving his things and knowing their value.

Also, if your child is from 2 to 7 years old, he does not share his toys with anyone else because he is selfish. He is not even aware of the meaning of sharing, and he needs you to teach him without repeating the word “You are selfish.” Why, if your child is older than 7 years and behaves selfishly, how do you treat this selfish behavior? Has?

How do you treat your child’s selfish behavior?

You must make sure that he is fully aware of the feelings and needs of others, and cancel the idea that the world revolves around him only, and you can treat this behavior, by encouraging him to help others, for example: try while you are walking with your son in the street, the first time you see a small child, buy a toy from anywhere near you And ask your son to hand the game to the child himself. And explain to him the benefit of this act, and that his happiness in many times will stem from the happiness of those around him.

Our children are like little roses, which is important to keep nurturing and nurturing in the best possible way.